The Healing Power of Relationships: Why Deep Connections Matter for Your Health & Mojo
When we think about healing, especially from chronic illness, we often think of nutrition, supplements, therapies, and lifestyle changes. But there’s another ingredient, one that doesn’t come in a bottle or a capsule: the people we surround ourselves with.
Relationships are medicine. They can lift us up when we’re down, help calm our nervous system, and remind us of who we are when illness tries to make us forget. And when we’re going through the challenges of long-term illness, this kind of connection becomes even more essential.
My Healing Journey with Brad
I met my husband, Brad, when I was 24. He’s been my rock ever since.
When my health crashed and chronic illness entered our lives, Brad’s love became a safe harbour. He never tried to “fix” me, he simply stood beside me. He celebrated the smallest wins (like making it through a day without needing to rest), reminded me of my strength when I couldn’t see it, and held space for my tears without judgement.
A healthy relationship like that is healing in itself. It creates emotional safety, and when we feel safe, our body can finally relax enough to heal.
The Loneliness of Chronic Illness
Chronic illness can be isolating. Friends may not understand. Invitations dry up. You can feel like you’re speaking a different language to the people around you.
That’s why it’s so important to:
Educate your loved ones about what’s happening for you. Share articles, personal updates, and explain your needs.
Find your tribe—people who “get it.” That might be others walking a similar path, a small group of trusted friends, or a supportive online community. These are the people who will celebrate the little steps forward and understand the steps backward, too.
How to Cultivate Mojo-Filled Relationships
When you’re rebuilding your health and your life, the people you surround yourself with can either add to your energy or deplete it. Here’s how to make sure your connections are helping you heal:
Communicate openly and kindly
Let people know your boundaries and needs, but also acknowledge what they bring to your life.Celebrate the wins together
Even if it’s just being able to enjoy a coffee out, share it with someone who will genuinely cheer for you.Prioritise your tribe
Invest your time and energy in the relationships that uplift you, even if that means seeing fewer people more intentionally.Practice daily gratitude
A simple text message or journal entry expressing thanks for someone can strengthen the bond and keep the focus on connection.
A Tool for Assessing Your Relationships
Take a quiet moment and reflect on the key people in your life. Ask yourself:
Do I feel safe, respected, and accepted as I am with this person?
Do I feel lighter, happier, or more energised after spending time with them?
Do they acknowledge my progress and support my growth?
Are they willing to learn about my experience rather than dismiss it?
If you answered “yes” to most, that’s a relationship worth nurturing. If “no” comes up often, it might be time to create healthy boundaries or reconsider how much energy you invest there.
Rebuilding Intimacy and Connection
If illness has created distance in your relationships, especially with a partner, healing that bond is possible.
Start with small moments: a shared meal, a gentle walk, a movie on the couch.
Be intentional: set aside time for connection, even if it’s short.
Share your inner world: let them in on what’s hard, but also what’s lighting you up.
Seek support together: couples therapy, retreats, or workshops can offer new tools and understanding.
Your Mojo Reminder
Healing isn’t just physical, it’s emotional, relational, and spiritual. Surround yourself with people who lift you, who see you, and who remind you of your strength on the days you forget.
Brad has been that for me, and I’m endlessly grateful. My hope is that you find your own circle, your people who will walk with you through the dark and dance with you in the light. Because those connections? They are some of the most powerful medicine you will ever take.